There is a pervasive myth surrounding entrepreneurs, one I am sure you can relate to. It goes something like this: 
“Oh,
 how wonderful! I’d love to run my own business. All that flexibility 
and control over my own schedule! I’d be able to spend time doing X, 
Y and Z.”
And therein lies the myth of running your own business.
Sure,
 it may give me the flexibility to work at 10 p.m. or 6 a.m. (always the
 former. . . I don’t do early mornings). It may enable me to avoid 
rush-hour commutes for meetings with clients. I don't have to travel so 
much, or work on weekends.
But, reality check: For me, the reality
 is that being an entrepreneur and running my own business is the 
hardest I have worked in my whole career.
While corporate life can be challenging, at the end of the day -- and there was 
always an end of the day -- I went home to my family; my paycheck arrived on time; and things were OK. The work got done.
As
 an entrepreneur, however, I find that the work never stops. There are 
always ideas for new programs and products. There’s that second book I 
want to write. And then along comes another invitation to speak at a 
conference, the client who specifically requests to work with me, the 
need to hire new talent for SkyeTeam. Invoices to process. Emails and 
phone calls to respond to. The "to do" list never ends.
And I love
 it. Being a successful and busy entrepreneur is the most fun I've ever 
had. The best job ever. With, I can add, thankfully, the best team ever.
However,
 as my team and business grow, I have to re-evaluate my role and 
re-assess where I spend my time and energies. The “I-do-it-all” approach
 is no longer effective or scalable. I am learning to delegate, to let 
go and to operate in a new way. I’m taking back control so I can perform
 better. Actually, I’m taking back control so 
we can perform better.
If,
 like me, you feel that you too are being pulled in a million different 
directions every day and the length of your to-do list rivals 
War and Peace, it may be time for you to take back control and perform better, too. Here are six tips that may help:
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1. Create focus.
For
 the first few years of running SkyeTeam, I didn’t have a "plan" beyond 
paying the bills. I took every opportunity presented to me, and I moved 
from one "shiny object" to the next. As long as we were having fun, 
learning and exceeding our customers’ expectations, our strategy (or 
lack of one) served us well. But, this year, I took back control so that
 we could perform better.
We created a strategic plan (on one 
piece of paper!) detailing the areas of the business we wanted to focus 
on for the next three years, and the results we wanted to achieve. 
Creating focus and ensuring that everyone on the team understands and is
 aligned around this strategy has proven absolutely transformational.
Our
 success -- and that of our clients -- has accelerated, as we now have a
 clear filter for deciding on the projects we should be working on 
-- and those that, while fun, would be potential distractions. Our 
approach is two-fold: It’s focused on our business goals, and also our 
individual goals.
- What are the business goals you are striving for?
- What are the personal goals you (and your team members) are striving for?
2. Change your answer.
I
 am quick to say “yes” to requests that come in: from clients, and from 
people who simply want to "pick my brain." What inevitably gets 
sacrificed is the time I spend at my desk creating powerful content for 
our sessions. What else falls by the wayside is my time with family and 
friends.
This year, though, I took back control in order to perform better; I 
turned up my turn-down skills.
 Instead of saying an immediate “yes,” I learned to give myself 
permission to say, “Let me think about that” or (heaven forbid) an 
immediate “no.” It wasn’t an easy adjustment. I had to learn to say no 
with style. But having a clear focus allows my team and me to better 
identify what we should be saying “yes” to: those opportunities which 
help us to achieve and further our business and personal goals.
- What do you need to start saying “no” to?
- How will you say “no” in a way that preserves the relationship?
3. Ask for help.
I
 have previously written about those traits of independence and 
self-reliance I have that have helped me be successful. Yet, these very 
same traits have also held me back at times when I tried to go it alone.
 Success, however, is not a solo sport. We all depend on others to 
achieve our goals. Even as a solopreneur, I was dependent on my client 
relationships, my board of advisors, my allies.
Asking for help is
 not a sign of weakness -- it is a sign of strength. The more people who
 have a vested interest in helping you succeed, the more likely that 
success will be achieved and maintained.
- What are you successful in spite of?
- When (and whom) might you ask for help?
4. Throw a worry party.
I’ve never spoken to an entrepreneur who 
hasn’t experienced
 angst and worry about a business move. The feeling can range from a 
few butterflies in the stomach to a whole squadron of them flying 
formation patterns. My "worry meter," for example, rose considerably in 
the early days of launching SkyeTeam.
That little voice in my head
 that told me. “You can’t because…” Those worries I had about the next 
project, the email I sent last week, the team, the marketing and more: I
 have come to realize that worrying -- especially worrying alone -- saps
 my energy and drains my mojo.
So, I took back control and now 
perform better because I no longer worry alone. When I feel those first 
knots in my stomach, I share my thoughts with my trusted advisors, my 
allies, the people who can provide perspective, advice and support as 
needed.
-  What is on your worry list right now?
-  Who is your ally, the person you can turn to for advice and guidance?
5. Hire professionals.
I know budgets can be tight; however, trying to do everything yourself may result in amateurish results. Just because I 
can
 do something doesn’t mean I should. Taking back control means that I 
have started to delegate. I’m using a professional bookkeeper now, 
instead of spending hours every month reconciling the various bank 
accounts. I can invest that time in something that helps to grow and 
move the business forward.
- Where should you be leaning on professional help instead of doing it yourself?
- What is one thing you need to focus on, and will focus on, when you hire your first professional?
6. Take a vacation.
I’m
 sure you weren’t expecting this piece of advice. In our company's first
 year, I never switched off. My family took a road trip and I stayed at 
home because “the business needs me.” True. . . but the family needs me,
 too. Also: I need me!
Taking a vacation has been one of the most 
powerful ways of taking back control. Time off provides me with an 
opportunity to recharge my batteries, gain perspective and generate more
 ideas to add to that infernal to-do list. Stepping back allows me to 
step back 
into the business with renewed vigor and excitement.
- When was the last time you took a vacation or short break?
- What will you do to include regular vacation time into your life?
Being
 an entrepreneur doesn’t mean that you have to do it all. Success 
requires that you take back control and do the right stuff at the right 
time. And the rest of the ideas and to-do list? You can do those 
tomorrow.